• Help readers understand the “anatomy” of control
  • Help readers understand the differences between the three major wars
  • Help readers identify in which of the three wars they are currently involved
  • Help readers identify the six key categories where a power struggle is currently at issue (just as it/they were during the duration of relationship/marriage)
  • Help readers understand the book’s self-actualizing worksheet homework assignments (after each chapter) that make their reading experience highly personal


  • What are my control issues?
  • Which war am I in? Who’s winning?
  • How can I win the wars, productively, leaving everyone whole?
  • How can I get, gain, assume and maintain control of my divorce?