Staying out of an emotional war is often viewed as impossible because in many divorces people are intentionally hurting the other person, causing emotional pain and possibly irreversible consequences. Determining whether you are, as Ms. Phillips describes, the Emotional Attacker, Emotional Defender or the rare Neutral helps you take back control of the situation, spares long-term emotional damage and will help you move on in a positive light.

Chapter 5 Sample Excerpt:

The bracelet was 24-karat gold.

“Where did you get that?” asked a distraught father.

“Oh, mom said I could have it for dress up. She said she didn’t want it anymore,” answered a confident teen.
“I don’t believe it…” the father muttered. “What?” she asked innocently.

“Nothing. Never mind.” The father was shattered. The bracelet had been his ten-year anniversary gift to his daughter’s mother, his former wife.